Checking In With Yourself

You are great at asking other people how they are. Whether it's your friends, coworkers, neighbors, or family, you ask, "How are you," without a problem, but you never ask, "How are you doing," to the one person who needs it the most...yourself.

You go through your days, weeks, and months and never even think about asking yourself how you are doing. The same thing happens when you're taking care of everyone else and forget to take care of yourself. When you don't check in with yourself on a regular basis so much can go wrong.




What does checking in with yourself mean? Make sure you are okay. Mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually find out where you are. Is everything aligned? Are you off balance somewhere? Where are you out of sync? How do you feel about your life? Your work? Your future? Money? Time? Dating? Where do you see yourself in a year or in five years?




If you're not finding out how you are doing, it's very easy to be driven by emotions and not rationale. When you make emotional decisions, often times they are on a whim, not thought out, and not going to yield the best outcome for you or your family. When you're not finding out how you are doing, you might have a meltdown or breakdown and not even really know why. You're not alone, but it doesn't have to be like that.




It's imperative that you check in with yourself daily. Before you go to bed, sit down and ask yourself how you feel about the day. What happened? What didn't happen? Where are you in it? How do you feel and think about it? How will you act, react, or behave about it?

Aligning yourself daily allows you to know your next course of action. What needs to be done, accomplished, or achieved? Where do you stand relative to where you want to be? Who can help you? Being able to ask yourself where you are and where you stand allows you to insight into yourself so you can succeed, because you'll be in tune with who you are and what you want. It will provide amazing clarity into yourself, your career, your family, and your future.

If something is foggy, you will not only see it better, you will feel it. You will get the answers you seek, the knowledge to go further, and ability to serve others. You will be a better version of yourself. So before you ask someone else how she is, ask yourself how you are....every single day. Then watch the magic transpire, when you start realizing what you're capable of.

Are You Chasing the Right Dream

The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.


~~ William James, famed psychologist


Achieving certain dreams often requires FAR LESS WORK than achieving other, seemingly easier goals. Why is that so?


Because it is much, much harder to work for a goal we do not passionately desire. But when you manage to get yourself focused on what is naturally of passionate interest to you your work becomes play.


Are Your Goals a Good Fit?


Hopefully you've invested some thought clarifying your life goals and you know exactly what you want. So why not take a few minutes to ask yourself an important question am I pursuing the right goal for ME?


Here's why that is so important: You'll never really achieve your true potential as long as you pour your energy into something that doesn't really fit your true passions and interests! Does that seem too simple?


Think about that for a moment. It's unfortunately very easy to automatically adopt someone else's goal. We were trained to do that very thing as children.


Ninty-nine percent of us were fully expected to achieve the goals our parents and educational system set out for us. Some of us gave in and tried to do so. Some of us rebelled and learned to fail instead. And some of us felt somehow inadequate because we did not have the natural interest and or aptitude to do what we were expected to do.

If you find you never seem to achieve your goals, you may be setting goals you don't really desire or believe in for yourself.


This is never going to lead to success. What it will lead to is one false start after another and a tendency to want to quit after the first bump in the road.


This is a major dead-end, and will do nothing but gradually erode your self confidence.


Ask Yourself This...


You need to be sure your goal really is YOUR goal for YOUR life. If you feel resistance, take a serious look at that. Ask yourself who you might really be setting that goal for?


Then ask yourself if you really have a burning passion for that goal, and are willing to butt heads with as many so-called failures as necessary to achieve it.


If your answer is no this may be a good time to revisit your goal setting exercise. Selecting an Appropriate Goal


Three things will happen if you make the effort to refocus yourself around a goal that is more in keeping with your natural talents and passions:


First, you will be happier, less stressed, and far more productive.


Second, you will be far more likely to hang in as you hit those jarring bumps in the road.


And third, there is a higher probability you will achieve a level of excellence at what you're doing. This increases your value thereby increasing your potential for increased return on your efforts.


So put your goal to the test. Does it truly measure up to your innermost desires? Achieve it.

The secrets of goal achievement are actually quite clear cut:

Have burning passion for what is desired,

Set a clear and exact goal to get it,

Make an absolute commitment to achieve the goal,

Be willing to pay the price for achieving it, and

Commit to focused action, focused action and more focused action.