Taking Responsibility For Your Own Life Success

If you want to be successful, you must learn to take responsibility for your own life. Stop relying on others, stop blaming the world, and stop waiting for things to happen - the sooner you realize that you alone are to blame for every misstep you made in life, the sooner you will be able to pick up the pieces and set out on your journey once again.

Things happen - sometimes results are hard to accept, but remember that your destiny is an accumulation of all your prior decisions and responses to situations - so own both the good and bad that come with it.



Hey, it was YOU who bought it, married it, did it, believed it, chose it, or did nothing - so why blame others? Stop complaining and accept - after doing so, let your mistakes guide you into the outcomes you desire. If you are able to learn from your mistakes and move on, then you know you are capable of changing your life situation into pure success. 

To take responsibility for your life, you have to keep in mind a few things. These will help you be the best you can be.

Be mindful of what you're saying, doing and thinking. Your words and actions, when not well thought off, can lead you astray. The best way to make changes for the better is to always be conscious of how you speak, act and think - because your thoughts translate into actions. Make the choice of always being the best - because this is what others see from you.

Be healthy. Adopt a healthy lifestyle. Stop choosing to engage in non-healthy vices like drugs, alcohol, smoking and irresponsible sex. All these have an effect on how you will be perceived by others, as well as the state of your mental condition. A healthy body is your tool towards success. 

All your great ideas will be nothing if your body will quit on you because of an irresponsible lifestyle.



Be happy. When you smile despite all the trials, you somehow attract positivity into your life. When all else fails - smile. We are not saying you must deny yourself to rightful expression, but what good will sulking do you? Honestly, sulking and feeling sorry sweeps all chances of joy away from you, thus prolonging your agony, and discouraging happiness from re-entering your life. Choose to respond to trials well, instead of jumping off that cliff.



Enhance knowledge and learning. You must take it upon yourself to get as much information as you can. 

Life is a constant search for information that will help you in every aspect of your life. The more you learn, the more you will be able to creatively use in your life. 

Cultivate positive relationships, and get rid of the damaging ones. No matter how much you try to resolve to make your life better, if you choose to stick it out with bad influences, or even people who will suck all the life out of you, you may never get off your starting point. Be with the people who will teach you, inspire you to be your best, and help you see all the good things about yourself. Don't befriend the insincere ones, though, who will only be your friend and tell you all the good things you want to hear even if they are not so truthful. Some people will not be as pleasant as you want them to be, but if they give you constructive criticism, then they will be a big help in your life. Better to be slapped with the truth than to be kissed with a lie.



Strive for a balanced life. You cannot spend 95% of your time working and only 5% of it with your family, then try to justify things by saying that you are working to give them a better life. 

What good is an abundant life, when the people you say you care about are so grossly ignored at some other aspects - like love and attention? A good life must be a balance of work, family, friends and personal time. Be a joy to the people around you by being some significant part of their lives.

Have a life purpose and goal. Having a life purpose is life giving direction into your life. You have something to strive for, something to work at. Not having a goal is like living a day-to-day meaningless existence. You just live each day and see what happens. Yikes. Now how can that be good for anyone? Be the best person you can possibly be by doing something meaningful, and striving to be someone worth emulating.



Give back. Remember the concept of "paying forward?" 

This means you give someone else the same amount of good that was given to you. When you do others good, you will feel an extraordinary sense of achievement and life purpose. This is much like giving without expecting anything in return - which is inexplicably fulfilling. Be someones answer to their prayer. Leave a legacy that can be admired and looked back on with much pride.

Personal Development ~ Closing the Gaps - Journaling for Peak Performance

Ready for change and a life of success, freedom and happiness, then be "willing to be responsible" in making the necessary changes to your current choices to better support the REAL life you want? 

This is a simple YES I WILL! Forget excuses. 

Opening to insights on intuitive reasoning will more easily create flow. To create flow, you must question the norm... the norm of your thoughts, words and actions. In order to position yourself to take original actions to live intentionally... so... moment to moment happiness and success become unshakable and inseparable, you must first learn to turn problems, personal or professional, INTO SOLUTIONS. 

You can live each day in a world filled with "problems," or rise each morning and embrace a world filled with unseen solutions eager for you to find them. The choice is yours both worlds exist. 

Becoming the architect of transformation from any position and time in your life starts with becoming conscious of how you are affecting your life personally, professionally and organizationally through your choices. You must be truthful with "yourself" on how you effect your life through the choices you make. 

Getting to the heart and truth of the matter frees your mind from limiting excuses that only recreate same old same old. To become more conscious of what is motivating your choices, journal your feelings, thoughts, and perceptions. 

Journaling is one form, one tool, to become more aware of you and how you are effecting your life. 

Journaling is credible writing; it is an opportunity to place your true feelings or reactions about any situation you have gone through in a form that allows complete freedom of expression.

Placing thoughts on paper empowers you to become "more consciously aware" of how you are responding to your situations. Through "focused hope", "reality based solutions," or "defeating attitudes". When you express your feelings and place your words on paper this it is how "you" can become aware of where you are coming from... truthfully. The length of your entries into your journal does not matter. You can record a single word or sentence, a paragraph, or however long you require the entry to be. Just record your thoughts, feelings and insights... uncensored. This honest expression allows you to quickly realize how you respond to life situations, either more negatively or positively.  

The first step in writing in your journal is to "quest for the truth of you." Having this intention of honesty with yourself assists you in uncovering what limiting thoughts have influenced you and your situations. 

Stay in the moment of how you think and feel. If you need to take notes in the course of your day to help you to remember important "feelings" or insights that came into your mind before you had an opportunity to write in your journal, do so. 

Each step is a step closer to you becoming aware of what is effecting your life situations. Write with uncensored feelings and interpretations. Remember, once you are clear with you, this exercise in awareness will become automatic and lessen the time required for note taking, extensive journaling or journaling at all. 

Be open to discuss these feelings with someone that you trust has good judgment. If you require either a business or personal coach... get one. 




Common sense does not equate to common action. 

Why? Because information does not necessarily cause transformation. It is what we do with the information that effects change. As human beings, we require different levels of "activation" and change "energetically" to start real change.

Changes must first occur in our brain by resetting negative mindsets and behaviors that create a ripple effect throughout your personal and professional lives. Creating positive ripples brings into existence positive effects that will create productive lives personally, professionally and organizationally. Positivity and negativity spread.

And depending on the intensity behind either... either can spread like wildfire. There is no such thing as a useless outcome or result. Any experience can always contribute to self-awareness... if you use tools to be more aware of you. Journaling is one such tool. You can receive a "reality check", an immediate heads up from journaling your "reality" which exposes a deeper truth. Truth is not right or wrong... just truth. 

Journaling is like a magnifying glass. In assists you in honing in on the details. On the real truth beneath and beyond any drama and mental debates are creating confusion or fear/anxiousness inside of you. "Suffering is holding onto pain." A way an individual often holds on to pain is by creating excuses designed to protect them. Letting go of excuses is often the problem we all face. When you face your problems, you have unlimited courage to be who you are, and to create what you love. 

Creating what you love forges positive ripples which profoundly effect an individuals or organization's ability to transition and change.



It's always good to reread so your mind can fully absorb the empowering suggestions to be successful.

Controlling Life: The Choices You Make Will Help You Control Life

Controlling life is about making choices that will result in moving you closer to the sort of person you want to be or to the kind of life you want to have. To achieve this you have to have a clear understanding of what you want. This means you have to have a set of rules or a standard of behavior or clear goals in your life so you know what you want. Your choices - your decisions - will put you in control so you get the outcomes you want.

Here are some examples of how you can control life through the choices you make:

1. One of your goals is to advance in your job, which would also be an important step in your career. You have been asked to make a presentation to an important client or to management or board members. This is a great opportunity to show your talents. You get a phone call from an old friend to catch up the night before the presentation. You know this always ends in a late night drinking session. 


You know if you do this you will not be at your best. You need to be cleared-headed and well prepared, and you wanted to go over the presentation once more. You can decide that your job is not going to run your life and go out that night or you can postpone the meeting with your friend. You have a choice to make, which puts you in control. The decision you make will control the outcome. 

2. You have a job interview with a company that you have been keen to work for as it will move you in the right career direction. You know they are a conservative company and they like their people to dress conservatively and the men to be clean-shaving. 


You do not like this style of dress and, as a woman, you like to wear fairly casual clothes or short dresses or clothes that show off you cleavage. As a man, you prefer not to wear ties or to wear business suits or you have a full beard in which you take some pride. You have a choice: to present yourself in the best way to get the job or dress as you please. Your choice determines the outcome. 

3. Your doctor tells you to lose some weight and do some exercise, otherwise you will probably have some health problems in the future. You are already feeling uncomfortable with your weight and you don't feel as healthy as you would like. But to lose weight means you will have to cut down on or give up some of your favourite foods. Some of these are a very important part of your lifestyle: you enjoy dining out with friends or having a few drinks at the end of the day. You do not want to have to change this. You have to make a choice - enjoy your lifestyle now and pay later or change your lifestyle and enjoy a healthier way of life. 

You are in control of your life because you have the power to choose.


Controlling life is about exercising the power of choice, which influences outcomes. You cannot completely control life and all its uncertainties, but you can shape life to your liking and build the life you want by the choices you make. To this extent, you can take control of life.

Appreciate Your Blessing

"We often take for granted the very things that deserve our gratitude." -Cynthia Ozick


I was compelled to write this article after a comment I received. In a blog I wrote I was talking about being thankful for our blessings. I mentioned that we should be grateful for the many things that we often take for granted; the ability to walk, to talk and see, our health and people we love etc. I couldn't possibly list them all!


As you can imagine, being in the business to inspire and encourage people to live a better life that last thing I would intend is to ever make anyone feel bad. But, for some reason this came across the wrong way and it offended this person because they had a physical disability. 

The reality is we all have disabilities in our lives but that doesn't mean that we can't go on to have a great life. We can overcome our struggles regardless of what they are.

There are people who have physical disabilities that you can see with your eyes. And, then there are disabilities that you can't see on the outside. But what goes on inside of a person can be debilitating to fully living a life with joy, peace and happiness.

Some people may be able to walk but they go nowhere because they are crippled by their fears. Some people can see but they are blinded by their emotions and beliefs. Some people can hear, but they never really listen.

And then there are people who may be blind but they can see the beauty that shines from the soul. They may not be able to hear but in their silence they are closer to God. They may not be able to walk but they are further in their spiritual journey than many.

It is when we overcome our disabilities, when we struggle through our impairments and come through our adversities; it not only makes us become are true authentic self, but once we move beyond what imprisons us, whether seen or unseen, that is the light within that shines the way on our path in life.

So, I try and keep my mind focused on my blessings to make my struggles less powerful. I try and stay in a place of being thankful when I want to moan and complain and I try and be a light to others when they feel darkness surrounds them.

We all have our dis-abilities, but once conquered; it gives us the ability to fully live, laugh and love!