How To Build Confidence - The Foundation You Must First Have

There are many books available today that are motivational, inspirational and informational in regards to boosting your confidence level. Many of these tips range from being aware of your strengths and celebrating them to focusing on what makes you happy. While these tips are helpful and can strengthen your self-confidence, if you don't have the foundation for practices to be built upon, then many of these tips will not be long lasting. This can cause a tremendous amount of frustration for those that are using these tips and are not seeing any permanent improvement in their own level of self-confidence. 

The foundation that needs to be in place before using a process to increase your confidence level is adopting the mindset of being unconditionally responsible. Being unconditionally responsible means that you understand you are the creator of your experiences, whatever they appear to be. You come to know that you had a hand in influencing the reality of your experience. When you embrace this frame of mind, you actually empower yourself because you can then begin to come to the understand that if you created or at least influenced your experience, you create it differently if you don't like what you are currently experiencing. With that understanding, you begin to feel less like you are a victim to your circumstances and you actually have some say in what happens to you, the "good" and the "bad". Embracing that you are responsible for what you create/experience is the beginning of the core foundation for having self-confidence.

In addition to being responsible, you must also be unconditional. This is important because being unconditional allows you to have the courage to look at your reality and what you are experiencing, and what you do to create/influence your reality. Being unconditional means you are not judging what you are experiencing and what you have created. There is no lesser or greater; it just is what it is. Look at all of your experiences in such a way as they are there only to clarify what you say you want in life and how you want to experience that life. Sometimes, you can't know what you want until you experience what you don't want. Judging the experience as something that you did or didn't deserve, only keeps you from receiving the empowering message and insight that would allow you to move to the next level in understanding what you do need to do to have the kind of experiences you would love to have. If you look at your experiences as just experiences, then releasing the judgment will truly build up your self-confidence because you are no longer repeating and reinforcing limiting and self-deprecating thoughts to yourself that tear down your confidence.

When you know that you can make no mistakes when it comes to the experiences in your life, there is a certain type of freedom you have that no one can take away. 

This brings up the third point of that unconditional responsibility foundation. Even though nothing you do is cause for judgment, it does not mean that you are released from any damage or harm that you would cause on another. If you have harmed another, you must be responsible for that damage you caused them. The great news is if you had the power to cause the harm, you have the power to fix the harm you caused.

Building self-confidence is simpler than you may feel if you have the foundation of unconditional responsibility firmly in place. With that foundation in place, any other tips you may receive later on will be more long lasting and more effective in raising your confidence level to even greater heights.

Personal Development ~ Closing the Gaps - Journaling for Peak Performance

Ready for change and a life of success, freedom and happiness, then be "willing to be responsible" in making the necessary changes to your current choices to better support the REAL life you want? 

This is a simple YES I WILL! Forget excuses. 

Opening to insights on intuitive reasoning will more easily create flow. To create flow, you must question the norm... the norm of your thoughts, words and actions. In order to position yourself to take original actions to live intentionally... so... moment to moment happiness and success become unshakable and inseparable, you must first learn to turn problems, personal or professional, INTO SOLUTIONS. 

You can live each day in a world filled with "problems," or rise each morning and embrace a world filled with unseen solutions eager for you to find them. The choice is yours both worlds exist. 

Becoming the architect of transformation from any position and time in your life starts with becoming conscious of how you are affecting your life personally, professionally and organizationally through your choices. You must be truthful with "yourself" on how you effect your life through the choices you make. 

Getting to the heart and truth of the matter frees your mind from limiting excuses that only recreate same old same old. To become more conscious of what is motivating your choices, journal your feelings, thoughts, and perceptions. 

Journaling is one form, one tool, to become more aware of you and how you are effecting your life. 

Journaling is credible writing; it is an opportunity to place your true feelings or reactions about any situation you have gone through in a form that allows complete freedom of expression.

Placing thoughts on paper empowers you to become "more consciously aware" of how you are responding to your situations. Through "focused hope", "reality based solutions," or "defeating attitudes". When you express your feelings and place your words on paper this it is how "you" can become aware of where you are coming from... truthfully. The length of your entries into your journal does not matter. You can record a single word or sentence, a paragraph, or however long you require the entry to be. Just record your thoughts, feelings and insights... uncensored. This honest expression allows you to quickly realize how you respond to life situations, either more negatively or positively.  

The first step in writing in your journal is to "quest for the truth of you." Having this intention of honesty with yourself assists you in uncovering what limiting thoughts have influenced you and your situations. 

Stay in the moment of how you think and feel. If you need to take notes in the course of your day to help you to remember important "feelings" or insights that came into your mind before you had an opportunity to write in your journal, do so. 

Each step is a step closer to you becoming aware of what is effecting your life situations. Write with uncensored feelings and interpretations. Remember, once you are clear with you, this exercise in awareness will become automatic and lessen the time required for note taking, extensive journaling or journaling at all. 

Be open to discuss these feelings with someone that you trust has good judgment. If you require either a business or personal coach... get one. 




Common sense does not equate to common action. 

Why? Because information does not necessarily cause transformation. It is what we do with the information that effects change. As human beings, we require different levels of "activation" and change "energetically" to start real change.

Changes must first occur in our brain by resetting negative mindsets and behaviors that create a ripple effect throughout your personal and professional lives. Creating positive ripples brings into existence positive effects that will create productive lives personally, professionally and organizationally. Positivity and negativity spread.

And depending on the intensity behind either... either can spread like wildfire. There is no such thing as a useless outcome or result. Any experience can always contribute to self-awareness... if you use tools to be more aware of you. Journaling is one such tool. You can receive a "reality check", an immediate heads up from journaling your "reality" which exposes a deeper truth. Truth is not right or wrong... just truth. 

Journaling is like a magnifying glass. In assists you in honing in on the details. On the real truth beneath and beyond any drama and mental debates are creating confusion or fear/anxiousness inside of you. "Suffering is holding onto pain." A way an individual often holds on to pain is by creating excuses designed to protect them. Letting go of excuses is often the problem we all face. When you face your problems, you have unlimited courage to be who you are, and to create what you love. 

Creating what you love forges positive ripples which profoundly effect an individuals or organization's ability to transition and change.



It's always good to reread so your mind can fully absorb the empowering suggestions to be successful.