The Enemy Within

Win the battle and the war, conquer your fears with faith. Fear is a thief that steals your life away. It is an unseen enemy that takes control of your life imprisons your mind and paralyzes your body. This enemy spreads like a plague, that can be passed down through generations, and taught through social heredity. It can be eliminated, you have the ability to erase it from your mind, wipe it out of your heart, and remove it from your life. By using the strength of your faith, the power of your thoughts and words. Identify the fears that have a grip on your life, keeping you from your greatness. Write down your fears or worries, you identify them, prioritize them from the most detrimental to the simpliest one. Seeing them will help you fight them when they rear their ugly heads. When you fear it you manifest it to be true, instead of fearing poverty or saying that you have nothing focus on what you do have, set goals and work on how to build on it. Maybe your fear is of getting old or dying. If so, live each day to the fullest, don't wallow in regret of the past, be thankful for the time you are blessed with and make the most of it. Death is not the end it is the beginning of a life without sin and unhappiness. Know that with true faith in God you can do anything, it is not fear that stands in your way it is you who stands in your way. Fear and ignorance are twin sisters both seducing you into failure. Failure is not something to fear, it is a tool to be used for learning, each new obstacle is a test of your commitment and determination. Use each failure as a stepping stone to greater things to come. Feed and nuture the positive in your life so it may grow and flourish. Ignore and starve the negative in your life until you kill it like an exterminator. All experiences are lessons learned. Have the curiosity and courage of a child. Life is a stage, each day is a new performance and some are a repeat performance of the very first acts in life. As babies we are cared for and taught by loved ones, although some things are by nature process of development. Say for instance a baby lifting its head up when they are only a few weeks old. The walking process is one to remember and repeated throughout life. This you see is one of the most valuable, first is learning to stand, then you take that most important first then you fall, now some babies get right back up and try again, when others may sit and contemplate their next move and others may cry and not try again for awhile. No matter which type of baby you are, they eventually learned to walk, as in life some learn faster than others. When you look at this you note that this process is repeated throughout your life. Go back to the beginning and take note remember or ask your parents how did you handle obstacles as a baby. As babies take the next step so should you, take a lesson from them, have the faith and courage to overcome your fears and take your next step.

Sex, Relationships, Success?

It has been said that the most powerful and successful people of the world are also highly sexed natures. That sex is one of the most effective stimuli to recharge the mind, providing that the contact of the man and woman is genuine through mutual feelings for one another. It is often said that a woman can either make or break a man and throughout history the most successful and powerful men have had intelligent supportive women on their side.  It is a know fact that a healthy relationship, healthy sex life and a healthy state of mind all contributes to great success.  Do you agree? If not why? Can you become successful without healthy relationships, can you do it alone?  Is sex helping to recharge your brain or is it keeping you from focusing on what you need to do.  In each relationship whether it is with a spouse the chemistry between you must be in harmony for relationship to withstand the ups and downs.  It is when one partner no longer believes or wants the same things the relationship ends.  We each know when the change happens but some try to change the other or themselves to compensate for the change. To be successful in anything you do, it is said, you first must be mentally healthy and that you must be united in your desires. You can not be mentally healthy if you are constantly surrounding yourself with negative influences or maintain a healthy relationship when you each want different things.  The enemies you must overcome are ignorance, illiteracy and poverty. You can not help or fix someone else until you first help or fix yourself.  If you truly want success and all that comes with it, you must first become mentally, physically and financially healthy.  You can not do this if you have negative partners, friends, family or environments blocking your view of the road to success. No matter what you must possess the tact, patience, persistence, self-confidence and knowledge of self with the ability to adapt inorder to become successful.

The Black Wall Street

This is from a recent article in the Scoop Magazine ( A Moment of Black History) and I must say that I was both amazed and devastated by this article that, I had to research it even further. 


This was just one of the affluent All Black communities in America in 1921. It was a place where we were working together and prospering which is what I want to emphasize. I do not want you to focus on what happen, I want you to be inspired by what was once a proud community.  


Now, what happen to this town was inhumane and disheartening but what they accomplished before the devastation was astounding.  What I want to focus on is how it shows that African-Americans can create a successful infrastructure.  It was written that the dollar circulated 36 to 100 times, almost taking a year for the money to leave the community (can you say WOW).  


That to me is amazing as today the money leaves the black community in a matter of minutes. They had there own businesses, doctors, attorneys, transportation and much much more.  We today need to build the black communities back up to its once former glory.  The question is not can we do it, I know we can, it not a matter of how to do it either, the question is when are we going to stop destroying, leaving or abandoning our communities and start rebuilding them and circulating our money back in them. Below is a Youtube video I found of interviews of survivors of this once wonderful and inspiring community.

Our time is NOW to support each other, promote positivity, rebuild those black infrastructures of our fore fathers. We have the capability, we have the knowledge, the financial capability and the time so let's get it done and let's do it bigger and better than it was before. Let's repeat history and build those strong black communities again. In the words of our great President Obama, "Yes We Can!"

To read the complete article on Black Wall Street go to http://www.scoopusanewspaper.com.

Guess What Your Children are Texting!

Parent Service Announcement!

This is to make you aware of some of the things your children are texting and some of the websites you can see what the acronyms mean. See what your children don't want you to know.





143-I love you. FB-F**k Buddy. GNOC-Get Naked on Cam. DUM-do you masturbate. GYPO-get your pants off



IIT-is itg tight. IMEZRU-I'm easy are you. IWSN-I want sex now. J/O-jerking off. KPC-keeping parents clueless



LMIRL-let's meet in real life. NIFOC-nude in front of computer. PAL-parents are listening. PAW-parents are watching



POS-parents over shoulder. PIR-parents in the room. RUH-are you horny. WTF-what the f**k.



TDTM-talk dirty to me. MOOS-member of opposite sex. MPFB-my personal f**k buddy


These are just some of the few examples of what you will find on these different websites to know what your children are texting. You also find out if you child has been sexting.

Taking Responsibiity

We are not a product of our environment but a product of our choices. We command what and who we allow in our lives and we must take responsibility for the results of our actions. We are taught from a large number of people right from wrong from the bible, our parents, teachers, mentors, to our religious organizations even television. We share both the ability for good and evil inside us and it is our conscious choice to be either good or bad. As people we make conscious choices and as a result we invite the people and situations into our lives. In order to fight the negativity that presents itself to us we must make a conscious choice not to participate in it and fight it with positivity. We must reframe from listening to it, reading it, watching it and spreading it. Each of us has the ability to stop it. We feed it as we broadcasting, we surround ourselves with it. Why is it that sex and bad news sells more than abstinence and good news? Why is it we are so anixious to hear about someones failures instead of their success? We are constantly separating ourselves from God with the hate we feel for ourselves and others. Let's take a look at television, you are bombarded with news, reality tv, talk shows feeding off peoples misery. Positive shows come on changes you never heard of, when did we get to the point where using profanity on tv and radio is alright. Why is it the old way is no longer working or is it that we are now lapsing in our morality and values. I pose a challenge to the mothers and fathers to take the children back to a time when morals and values mattered. Stop promoting greed, anger, envy, lust, gluttony, sloth and pride these are just the beginning. Instead of being anger or jealous of someone or anyone's success, why not congratulate and ask them how you can begin the road of success. We don't have to have more we choose to have more than we need, we don't have to eat the all of it and go back for seconds and thirds we choose to and then we lay around and complain about our weight. I am not passing judgment I am asking for each of us to take the challenge of doing and being more positivity. Let's teach our children love of self and not love of things. The only person we can change is ourselves and with that change will grow. Hate comes from self hate to hate someone else you must harbor great since of self-hate. God made us each unique by his hands no man is better than another, which have talents and gifts to share with the world. If we do more encouraging and less discouraging we will have less desire to over indulge in drugs, alcohol and sex (faithful married couples not included). Strengthen yourself with positivity affirmation, tell yourself what you can do not what you can't. Look at what you feel is great about you and ignore those who find fault with you, accept the way God made you and love yourself because he loves you too.  Make a commitment to God and yourself to live a positive life.  Do not let situations and others dictate the way you live or who you are.  Get to know yourself, like yourself and love yourself and let God do the rest.

Positivity vs Negativity

Bad news, gossip, sex, scandal, drama someones misery is someone elses pleasure. It is really as exciting or worth talking about as the media makes it out to be or is it something we use as distraction to not deal with our own problems. Why is negativity promoted so easy and positivity is not. As I surf the web or change the channel or open the newspaper the negative news jumps out at me but I have to search to find a story of heroism, love, new life, anniversaries. It is time that we stop supporting and promoting the negativity that is destroying our children, neighborhoods, relationships and our lives. We see it on television, hear on the radio, spread it through gossip and we read it in books, magazines and newspapers. We have the power to change what we take so why do we allow so much negativity surround us. The media works on demand so let's start demanding more positive messages, tv, radio, articles and more. If we surround ourselves with more positive people, inspiration, motivation and conditions. Giving our children positive roll models are not enough they need positive input, positive tv, radio, music, reading and environment. These are all things that we have the power to give and promote. Negativity even in moderation is still harmful that is why we need to flood our lives with positivity, laughter and love. So let's get it flooded in here!

Positivity is a team effort, so let's build a team that will promote positive morals and values, self-confidence, self-respect, love, friendship to give our children a stronger since of self and a positive future.  Our children are the future, what type of future will they have if we continually allow morals and values to be superseded by hate and death. Let's monitor what the see, hear, read, listen too, let's not stop there let us extend that to other children who don't have parents or someone who cares.  Let's not act like we don't see them or hear them, it takes a village to raise a child.  Let's start those villages once again.

"Just Asking"

"Ladies, now I know that you may not agree but I ask you to just listen. Woman to woman, we all have "complained or are still talking negative about men whether it is our father, sons or spouses on a daily. Let me ask you (honestly) is it them or is it our own expectations that is the problem (men you can comment too). Now with our fathers we have to accepted that they are who they are and deal accordingly, our sons are the product of our own doing depending on how we raised them and the outside influences we let into their lives but our spouses now that is based on our choices and if we set any criteria for what we wanted in a man.

Now ladies, let's have a straight talk, do you give your man the treatment that you would like to receive or do you just complain about what he doesn't do. When you wake up in the morning, do you greet him with a smile, say good morning and give him an appreciative pat on the butt or do you start the morning with a list of demands or complaints. Now I know the first thing you are thinking is he doesn't do that for me but have you thought if you do it (sincerely) you may change the way you start your day and maybe he will feel the same.  Ladies, this is not about changing your man this is about taking positive actions to get positive results. If you want your relationship to change, improve or be more positive you first must make a change in yourself. Give the treatment that you want to receive, if you want your man to cook for you and his reason is he can not cook, then invite him into the kitchen and make him apart of the cooking process Make it a fun event, play a little, make it something he would like to do. If he does something wrong don't criticize, compliment his effort, make him feel comfortable and appreciate his willingness to learn. I know we have long days at work or taking care of the children and sometimes just don't feel like dealing with our spouses needs, remember not to take your exhaustion out on your children or spouse. Take a moment settle the children, and greet your spouse with the love you feel for him, relax him then take a moment for yourself.  If you have something on your mind wait until all is settle before attacking him with a problem, try to communicate in a calm peaceful state of mind so that you can discuss solutions and avoid arguments. Men this also goes for you too, instead of communicating your concern do you look for a distraction or run to the door. Try to have more understanding for one another, place yourself in the other person's shoes and see how they would feel by your words or actions.

If you want a great relationship then change the only thing you can change and that is yourself. I know when you first meet you don't learn everything you need to know about the person before you start a relationship, sometimes it is just physical and you get caught up then children are involved.  Although, the relationship may have started out on shallow desires, only means that for the relationship to grow it will take honest communication, hard work learning to like and accept ourselves as well as one another, openly encouraging as well as appreciating each other a relationship is like a business in order for it to be successful you have to work hard and as a team.

There are too many broken homes, fatherless and motherless children, we are losing generations because of our lack of willingness to make the relationships we enter work or jump into a relationship before we are ready and jump ship when things may not be the we want it to be. This is not including abusive, life threatening or unhealthy relationship those I advice any woman or man to jump ASAP! But those with money issues, stress, culture differences any relationship that compromises can be made you must continue to try. God wants you to be together, he blesses love and marriage, he will help you find the answer.

Now ladies, I know this may seem like it is all on us to keep things going but in truth it is, now before you bite my head off.  God gave us the greatest gift by blessing us with the ability to bring life, and the greatest job in the world to a Mother, we are the first women our son's love and the first women our daughter learn from.  We are the mothers of society, he gave man physical strength, he gave us spiritual strength, we are the backbone of the family and able to rise after each fall as well as pick up our spouse and children when times are hard. So if your spirit or relationship is broken go to God and he can repair it but don't take the job God gave you lightly, your career, your bank account, your car or how big your house is not what God is going to look at when your time comes, how much you give, love and taught will.

Tell me your thoughts and opinion, I am looking for positive objective comments. Please!