COVID 19 THE GREAT AWAKENING

Can you see it? Are you still asleep? COVID-19 the great equalizer, see it doesn't matter if your light skinned or dark skinned, tall or short, fat or thin, black man or black woman it's killing you all black people.

Have you opened your eyes yet? Black people will you survive and thrive or lie and die? Even in a pandemic the narrative  continues. When will you jump off this hamster wheel of self hate, low self esteem, self doubt and self destruction.  The separation is furthered,  even the closeness of death you still do not see or do not learn.

Can you see it? COVID-19 doesn't care about if your light or dark your skin, it doesn't matter if your hair is nappy, curly or straight. It doesn't care about your religion, your job status or your bank account. It doesn't care who you know, where you live or who you are related too. Its a virus just like the self destructive hate that has infected the black community this contagious sickness that has been passed down throughout generations.

Can you see it yet? COVID-19 doesn't care about the difference in your complexion so why do you? It doesn't care about the differences in your hair texture, why do you? Ask yourself why? It doesn't care about why are you not happy with the way you were born or why you envy others. Ask yourself why do you feel the things you are feeling about yourself and others. It doesn't care about which religion you choose to believe in, so why does it matter to you if someone doesn't believe how you believe. We were born unique individuals not carbon copies, we are different each with our own talents and skill sets.

Can you see? COVID-19 is a wake up call, it has locked you in the house to see and face the truth we have been so busy ignoring. Our differences doesn't matter as far as COVID-19 is concerned. We are the same to it, we are equal opportunity to kill in it eyes.

Do you see it yet? The changes we can make, we can make together. Ask yourself do you want to survive and thrive or lie and die? We all know we are stronger together throughout history has proven this, but there is something else that has also hindered us throughout history. Lack of knowledge, it enslaved us, and continued ignorance is what keeps us divided.

Do you see it no you don't see it do you? Lack of knowledge of who we are as a people, where we came from, knowledge of our own talents, abilities, or limits. No you don't see it do you, what you don't know does hurt you and it has been hurting us for hundreds of years.  Fear, lack, isolation can you see it yet?  COVID-19 the eye opener, if you choose to take off the rose colored glasses you have been wearing. Fear, lack, isolation can you see it? Which one are you focused on fear, lack or the isolation? COVID-19 feeds off of blacks killing blacks, it thrives off of black men against the black women, and the black women against the black men, it hungers for the nutrients of a poor diet, lack of exercise, drugs and alcohol. It loves the self hate, it spreads with the ignorance,selfishness and disregard of many, it mutates in the confusion of debates of right and wrong!

Can you see it or should I ask do you want to see it? That's it do you want to see it or are you willing choosing to be blind or ignorant. Is it fear of dying, fear of ridicule, or just fear of life? Or is it lack, lack of money, lack of self confidence or lack of knowledge? I know it can't be isolation could it, we just got locked down or was it your own self imposed isolation?

Can you see it yet? COVID-19 how do we fight it, washing our hands of the fear, (cleansing ourselves), social distances  (isolating from those not like us) stay at home (remove the lack if we came home together). We have the cure and COVID-19 is giving us the time to cultivate it.  As they are finding  a vaccine or cure for COVID-19,  its time to seek the knowledge of  healing the pain of self hate we have been infected with so many years ago.  To know and feel that we are beauty from the albino to the darkness of coal, from nappy to straight, short to long, slender to epic, we are beautiful people.  COVID-19 is the ugliness we show each other, the hate we feel for each other, it is the abuse we inflict on each other. It is the lies and deceit we tell each other throughout our communities. Its a virus that has been to the most deadly to us throughout the centuries. 

When you see it. Be vigilant in changing it. When you see it. Show kindness and compassion. When you see it. Show understanding and patience. When you see it. Teach and give solutions. When you see it. Spread positive messages and hope. When you see it. Show empathy and love.  We are always  helping  others  before  we help ourselves we can no longer continue to sacrifice ourselves. This is the time we need to look at each other with compassion, kindness, empathy and love. We first must heal ourselves in order to help others. Its time for us to see it, learn from it, and heal it. Lets be vigilant and resilient our legacies depend on it!

How To Take Control Of Your Emotions

Do Emotions Control Your Life?

To a certain degree, yes I do think that emotions can control your life and for many people, they are also running their lives. Emotions are pre-determined and they make us human. Some people think that you can merely ignore your emotions or even worse, try eliminate all emotion from their life! 

The problem with this belief is that no matter what you try to do, no matter how hard you try to suppress the way you feel, your emotions will always win. They are banging on the door of your mind. The more you try to ignore it, the louder and louder they bang and the harder and harder they pound. This is where some people will inevitably bottle up these emotions until they explode and depending on their personality type, each person will respond in a different way, none of which are particularly pretty to witness. Some time ago, there was a lady who knew her husband was cheating on her, she knew and remained silent for the good of her kids, but also because she was so scared to lose him. The longer and longer this went on, the more and more it became apparent that the cycle of endless cheating would not end. More than a year down the line, she could not take being hurt any longer and just up and left.

Now why did this happen? Simple, she bottled up all the emotions that she had, which she subsequently decided to ignore. Emotions are not something that should be considered as a weakness or a negative thing, they are there to serve as a warning that one or more of your beliefs and life rules have been violated. This woman never pulled her husband up on the belief that he was cheating. If she had, she may well have found that actually, the husband was not cheating on her at all, he was working another job just to feed their family.

Now there was clearly a big issue with communication, as a matter of fact there was no communication and this was a big part of the problem. However this is not something that I will cover in this article. The point here is that emotions can not only be warning signs, they can be felt by people as a result of some one's perception of a particular situation, even if the situation is being perceived completely wrong. This lady took her husband's absence as a violation of her own rules, perceiving it to be that he didn't care about her or want to be with her, she then created a story in her mind as to why he wasn't spending time with her and showing her that he still cared, when really he was just incredibly burnt out.

Now, emotions serve as a very useful tool for anyone trying to improve the quality of their own life, their business, and their relationships, so let's take a brief look at the 10 emotions I Believe to be directly responsible for the quality of one's life.

The 10 Emotions


Discomfort - this is not an extreme emotion but will leave you feeling uneasy feeling as if something is not quite "right"

Fear - this is possibly one of the most useful as it is a clear warning sign for us. Scared, frightened, are words that could be used to described this emotion

Hurt - this could be when someone violates one of your rules that you live life by, this can also be linked to a feeling of loss, which could be tangible or intangible, depending on the situation that can caused this emotion

Anger - being enraged, livid and aggressive, this emotion can be the most externally shown emotion and can take many people by surprise through the actions of the person experiencing it

Frustration - this is an emotion that entrepreneurs and business people often experience and can stop even the most dedicated people in their tracks. This can be altered to serve you in your endeavours as with the other emotions which I will explain shortly.

Disappointment - a feeling of not quite making it, not performing at best or being let down are often used to describe this emotion.

Guilt - This is an emotion that you must act on quickly if you can to stop it from growing root. Sometimes this may not be possible because it has been left too long already, but this can potentially be another devastating emotion if people do not control it.

Inadequacy - the feeling of not being as good as the next person, not as smart, not as strong, not an equal.

Being overwhelmed/Depressed - sometimes people go into a state whereby they describe themselves as being depressed and overloaded in their life, it can also be a pre cursor to the next emotion

Loneliness - The last emotion is that of being lonely, you may feel like the walls are closing in, nobody is there to help you or talk to you. A feeling of being completely on your own can be horrible, especially as we humans are very social creatures and as such, we need connection and love from time to time

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How to Utilize Your Emotions


So now you understand the 10  emotions, how do you go about changing them to help you create a better standard of life and increase your own happiness? There are two ways in which you can do this, changing either your perception of your emotion, or changing the situation you are in. For example if you are running your own business and all of a sudden the demand for your products takes a nosedive. You may well have emotions of fear, discomfort, anger, frustration, you could be feeling a number of different emotions depending on your past references and experiences and your own personality type. 

So you have these feelings, but remember, they are there to serve you, they are telling you that you need to change the way you are looking at it and perceiving it, or you need to change the situation that you are in. In this case you could first change the perception of the situation and instead of looking at the sudden lack of demand as a bad thing, you can turn it around and say that now you know that demand is shifting so you may need to consider altering the product, changing the product or even the way that it is marketed. This way you will turn it around and potentially make an even bigger profit than before. Notice that after changing your perception, you are then already ready to change the situation that you are in.This may not be the case for every situation, so you need to be mindful as to what you are feeling and what is causing the emotion, then act accordingly to make that shift and change the quality of your life for the better.

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5 Fear Based Emotions That Destroy People

Let's face it.  There are only two ways to approach life.  You either honor the fears in your life, or you love your life.  You see, the opposite of fear is love.  If you honor the fears in your life, these 5 fear based emotions will destroy you.  What do you honor?  

1.  Anger.  Do you know anyone that is always angry?  These people are angry at everyone.  They are angry at their spouse, angry at their children, angry at their co-workers, angry at the traffic, angry at the long lines they are standing in,  angry, angry, angry.  

I know a few people like that, do you?   Have you ever thought to yourself, 'I wonder why that person is so angry?'  

I know I have.  One person in particular comes to mind.  With this particular person, my opinion is that this anger derives from feeling a lack of control.  I was always taught that if you have a need to be in control, then you are out of control.


But make no mistake, anger definitely comes from living in fear.  Maybe that person is fearful of losing a business, or losing an income, or losing a person in their life, or whatever.  


Read: Change Your Brain, Change Your Life (Revised and Expanded): The Breakthrough Program for Conquering Anxiety, Depression, Obsessiveness, Lack of Focus, Anger, and Memory Problems


2.  Jealousy.  Aah, the 'ole jealousy emotion.  This is by far the biggest destroyer of them all.  Excuse me here, but I have to relate this fear based emotion to relationships, more specifically a sexual based relationship.  After all, the most powerful emotion since the beginning of mankind is sex.  

If you suffer from severe jealousy of a spouse or partner, you need to take a closer look at yourself.  To overcome jealousy you have to overcome your own shortcomings.  The way I look at it, jealousy is a fear of being out of control. You can't control if someone cheats in a relationship anyway, if they are going to cheat you can't stop it, so don't fret it.  And again, a need to be in control means you are out of control.

3.  Resentment.  Carrying around resentment, in my opinion, comes from a failure to communicate and/or express your expectations of another.  Once again, I know a particular person that carries around loads of resentment for family members.  This person expects certain business family members to perform certain tasks, and when they fall short, resentment explodes.  The fact of the matter is that this family member that falls short of expectations doesn't even know that task or tasks was expected of them  in the first place.  A classic case of miscommunication.  

Resentment is totally created by the person carrying it.  It takes loads of energy to carry around resentment.  Refocus that energy in a focus,  productive way and just let go of this crippling emotion.

4.  Anxiety.  We all have felt this type of emotion in some way, shape, form or fashion.  Feeling anxious begins at an early age.  You are anxious because you don't want to be late for school, or you don't want to miss the bus, or you have to be home at a certain  time, or a certain project is approaching a deadline, and on and on.  

Feeling anxious, in my opinion, results from trying to meet certain expectations of others.  To relieve this emotion, simply replace your expectation or the expectations of others, with an aspiration.  You simply aspire to do your best.  You aspire to be on time.  You aspire to perform at your highest level.  When you aspire and not expect you are not disappointed, and your anxiety will fade.

5.  Insecurity.  The emotion of feeling insecure affects millions.  Feeling insecure in your relationships, your finances, your marriage, your job, etc.   A lack of self-esteem combined with a poor self-image is a major factor in feeling insecure.  How do you overcome feeling insecure?  My rule of thumb was always 'just go to work'.  Work hard, aspire to do your best, and let the chips fall where they may.  When you have a 'hard work attitude' combined with an aspiration to do your best, you self-image will increase dramatically.

Do you suffer from any of these 5 fear based emotions?  Remember, the opposite of fear is love.  Love casts out fear.  So, try loving more and letting go of fear.  You will see a dramatic effect in your life and your business.

How To Make Up After A Bad Fight - Best Advice For Struggling Couples

Ever wondered how to make up after a bad fight?

Your heart feels like a lead weight in your chest. You've just had a terrible fight with your partner and you want to know how to make up after this fight and get rid of that sick feeling inside.


The first thing to do is take a good look at what happened. What was your fight really about?

Sure, on the surface it might seem like you're fighting over a lack of money or maybe one of you lost a job recently and around the holidays this can cause couples fighting to escalate.

But maybe there's something else even more deep seated - something that stems from painful childhood memories or a remark that triggered a painful memory from a previous relationship gone bad?


HOW TO MAKE UP AFTER A BAD FIGHT - TRY TO TALK THINGS OUT

See if you can talk it out - find and pinpoint the root cause of your fight.

Doing this can bring out more understanding and compassion for each other.

Example: Feeling abandoned or neglected.

This is often a root cause for many a relationship meltdown.

Another example - do you feel inadequate in some way? Or your partner does? Having feelings of inadequacy can lead to frustration and low self-esteem.

Yet another example is feeling left out or taken for granted in some way. Do you include each other enough...in each other's lives?

Think about it, if one of you is really feeling this way - this could definitely be a root cause and needs to be brought out in the open and discussed in a loving and caring way.

Get real and get it out in the open. If you or your partner are feeling any of these feelings for more than just a little while, chances are good you'll be repeating the same argument later on.
If you can do this, you greatly improve your chances of making up after a bad fight.

MAKING UP AFTER A BAD FIGHT - TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE FIGHT!

Take responsibility for your part in the argument. Are you guilty of losing your temper? Are you afraid of losing control?

Whether we realize it or not, we humans tend to want to manipulate situations and the people closest to us to get the problem or fight resolved rather than facing things head on.

Admit to your part in the fight without blaming yourself or your boyfriend/girlfriend. Then you might be able to start communicating more clearly and create a new beginning.


HOW TO MAKE UP AFTER A BAD FIGHT - A LITTLE HUMILITY GOES A LONG WAY


When you find a way to apologize for the fight or breakup (even if you don't believe you started the ball rolling) chances are your partner will want to meet you half way and apologize also.

Let your loved one know that you never meant for things to get so out of hand.

Let them know you really want to avoid bad fights in the future.

MAKING UP AFTER A BAD FIGHT - DON'T HOLD BACK


Don't hold back when it comes to talking things out. Being bitter or hurtful isn't going to solve anything...just like holding a grudge that never gets spoken.


Holding grudges can make you sick.


The last thing you want is to hold back and not communicate your real feelings...including the fact that you were angry and why.

It's important to get it out...but it's the way that you do it that will make all of the difference.


Chances are, your partner has some things to tell you that you might not want to hear or deal with. The best way forward though, is to deal with your issues because you don't want to grow further apart.

It's time to hone your listening skills...really listen to what the other person is saying and do your best to understand where they're coming from.


Bottom line - if either one of you is still unhappy after patching things up...if there are issues left unspoken or unresolved...it's not going to be good for your relationship in the long run.


HOW TO MAKE UP AFTER A BAD FIGHT - DON'T WAIT TOO LONG

This is a crucial point. If you wait too long to get back together after a bad fight it's only going to be harder as more time goes on.

Don't feel like your relationship is doomed because you had a bad fight or a few of them in the past.

Just about every couple has fights now and again - these are growing pains and are bound to happen.

The best advice is to learn from each fight that you have. What's the big takeaway? Did you have a communication break through?

Did you get closer afterward? What can you promise for each other?


MAKING UP AFTER A BAD FIGHT - IT TAKES TWO


Bottom line is a relationship is a two way street. When you're with a partner, you have more than just your own feelings to consider.


Remember that as a couple, when your feelings are hurt - it hurts your partner...and when your partner's feelings are hurt - it hurts you.


Don't allow a bad fight to come between you permanently...especially if your love is real. Your love is more important than any argument or misunderstanding.


When you put your love first, any reasons for fighting become secondary.


With the stresses that our modern lifestyles bring, it's easy to get stressed and end up taking it out on the people closest to us.


Be mature, compassionate and be a good listener when you come together for the first time after a fight.


When you do this, making up after a bad fight will be that much easier. You'll both discover you're on your way to a happier more fulfilled relationship - when you can figure out the main issues and tackle them together.

Anxiety And Panic Attack Treatment - Is Overcoming Shyness And Social Anxiety Possible?

The regular shyness is innate to every person. This is how we were made and there's nothing we can do to eliminate this bodily response. What we can do is to control and overcome it. This can be done by the sheer force of will, determination, and distraction. 


However, people who have extreme shyness often deal with it by succumbing to their private world. 


For some people, being exposed to situations that trigger their shyness, like social functions and gatherings, may become a source of anxiety, and that anxiety can lead to panic attacks. How do you prevent that? Simple! Just find some effective ways for really overcoming shyness—it's all about will.



You're not the center of attention. The issue with shy people is their concerns of embarrassing themselves in front of a crowd. When in social gatherings and you're surrounded by people you don't know, it's important to keep in mind that they have their own businesses and reasons why they are there. They did not turn up because of you, except if you're the host. They most certainly didn't attend to watch your every move and hope that you trip or cause a huge commotion in your corner. In fact, a pack of men grouped in front of you may not even notice that you're there. Realizing that this is true can ease up some of the anxiety of extremely shy people and may even qualify itself as an anxiety and panic attack treatment.


Read:  The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook


Remember that there are other people worse than you in the room. It's a big world and you have high chances of finding someone who suck at socialization harder than you. Sure, that statement is a bit too much on the ugly side but it's true. A large number of people suffer from extreme shyness. Some of them cope with it, others can't. You're not the worst and you can still do something about your case. Having this kind of mindset can increase your confidence. By doing this, you can liberate yourself from a good part of your shyness and some of the anxiety brewing inside whenever attending social gatherings. It can prove to be a useful anxiety and panic attack treatment in the long run, not just something that helped you rid yourself from your shyness.



The person beside you is probably thinking the same as you are. Yes. He or she is shy too. Here's how you do it: stop thinking about yourself. Think that that person is feeling the same way as you are, even worse. Try to introduce yourself. Do it the very first chance you get because the longer you wait, the harder it becomes. Because that particular person is shier than you are (at least that's how you should think), take the initiative to ask the questions so you can start a conversation. Make sure you place complements whenever you think is apt and do listen sincerely with what the person is saying. When you do this, the conversation becomes natural and continuous. Furthermore, you will do that person and yourself a favor by building an atmosphere that can make its way to become an anxiety and panic attack treatment.



If these methods do not work for you, it is probably time that you get additional help and support in overcoming shyness. Perhaps medications will do the job but if you're too skeptical with them, natural treatments are available in the form of programs or courses written in books, e-books and recorded in audio and visual CD. Such a program offers easy to follow methods to cope with such problems. You don't have to relive your past or undergo expensive therapies with it. It will teach you new information on how to solve your problem. It's very straightforward and this is the perfect natural anxiety and panic attack treatment.

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